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Wednesday, December 27, 2006

Could it BE any merrier?!

Ok, so I asked for it! I mean, I work in the transportation and service industry, so I suppose that gives the general public the right to pretty much do and say whatever they want to the "hired help!"

This year, as it has been most years since I started with the airlines, I had to work on Christmas day. Not that I mind at all, on the contrary, I try to make it a fun experience -- I wear my festive tie, I don my lighted red and white elf hat, I hand out candy canes to the passengers and use holiday themed cocktail napkins (all at my own personal expense -- heaven forbid the airlines actually come up with something so cheery!).

But what exactly is in the air this year? Certainly, the airlines took a hit a few days before the holiday as Denver was shut down for two days due to the blizzard. But by Christmas day, most of those problems had past and everyone flying on the actual holiday had booked their travel as planned. But it has puzzled me that travellers, it seems, have the lowest regard for airline personnel, especially around the holidays.

How sad. I felt badly for many of my co-workers whom I witnessed being verbally accosted by people for reasons that were conpletely out of their control. I even had a man tell me that he felt he was being screwed out of his seat simply because I asked him to move over one seat to accomdate a honeymooning couple that had been separated when they had missed their earlier flight! I never demanded that he move, I didn't guilt him into moving -- he could have simply said "no thanks" and that would have been that. When I presented him with the dilemma, he and his wife acted happy to help, at the moment. But not 10 minutes later, he's in my face, telling me that I'm screwing him out of his preferred seating! Forget your medication, sir?

I lament the fact that people just don't display simple acts of human kindness to each other -- isn't it sad when people actually do, that it seems to make the evening news! Children are not taught manners, they are taught to get what they can get, when they can get it, by whatever means necessary -- even if it means lying to get it. And people tend to "get away with it" rather than own up to it.

On the last flight of the night for us, we were setting out from Los Angeles to Dallas. As the passengers boarded the plane, a young girl, maybe 25 or 26, came aboard with her little white dog in hand. While I'm a sucker for dogs and cats, being the animal lover I am, unfortunately, the FAA is not so understanding and the rule is, the animal must be caged while on board the aircraft (with very few exceptions). We remarked on the cute dog, but also informed its owner that she needed to put the pup in its kennel to come aboard. She readily dismissed us and ignored the request.

Unbeknownst to her, another passenger boarded with her little dog, properly placed in it's carrier, and she was followed by a couple, each with dog in kennel -- 4 dogs onboard -- FAA red-flag -- limit of 3 pets on board a single flight with a limit of 2 in economy and 1 in first class. So now, who do we tell -- of the 4 owners -- that one must get off the flight and be rebooked?

As it turns out, our first passenger -- the one who ignored our request -- had not informed the airline that she was carrying the dog onboard (which requires a fee along with her ticket) while the other 3 passengers had properly identified their pets and paid their fees. As we came through the cabin looking for this woman, when we found her, she was hiding the dog under a blanket in her lap, refusing to identify herself when we asked over the PA for all the pet owners to ring their call buttons. As the supervisor was removing her from the flight, there she was, making demands of everyone, and threatening to sue if she wasn't accomodated on a flight to Dallas that very evening! (We were the LAST flight of the night to DFW and no other airline had a flight out). What comes around goes around?

Honestly, can anyone explain this madness to me? I feel so grateful that I had parents who felt it necessary to teach me public ettiquette and civility -- the old saying that one can get further in life with honey than with vinegar seems appropriate here. But somewhere along the road, people have gotten the idea that he who yells the loudest, makes the biggest scene, or threatens legal action is the one who gets accomodated. Has it really come down to that?

I cannot claim to be perfect either. While I have prided myself on being patient, I have had an occassion or two when I just snapped and believe me, I know I ended up paying for it in the end. I feel guilty, I actually lose sleep over my reactions on the rare instance that I lost control. But some of these people are "professionals" at it and I often muse how they live with thmeselves -- how do they sleep at night?

After arriving in Dallas, after everyone left the aircraft, the crew gathered their belongings and headed for the escalator that would lead us to our hotel van and the awaiting Sleep Number beds. As we decended, I heard a voice from behind us -- it was an African American guy, maybe no more than 25 or 26 years old, dressed as though he was headed for a Rapper's Convention with all the "bling" he was adorned in and a black nylon skull cap covering his head. He shouted to us as we went down "Hey guys -- thanks for working on Christmas Day -- I really appreciate it!" It reminded me of a story in the Bible about Jesus cleansing a group of people and only one returned to offer thanks. Not that we did anything miraculous, but where were the other 474 people that we transported that day? This man's spontaneous gesture made the whole day worth the effort.


So Merry Christmas, you crazy, cruel world! While I am saddened by your inconsiderate berating, I'll still greet you at my aircraft door, a smile on my face and a truly sincere "Welcome Aboard!"

Sunday, December 24, 2006



With Love from
John & Cole

Thursday, December 21, 2006

Superman - Reborn

In 1978, in the midst of a new wave of "high-tech" blockbuster films that Hollywood was cashing in on, I stood in line for a movie that I had eagerly awaited for the 2 years that I had heard it had been in production.

Then, on December 15, 1978, this (then 16 year-old) stepped into the movie house and witnessed the magic of his childhood hero, come to life on the big screen: Superman!

For many years after that, "Superman: The Movie" was considered one of my top 10 movies of all time. But after 3 sequals, it's magic seemed to dull and after Chris Reeve's tragic accident, it was tough for me to really watch the movie again.

This past summer, the new Superman movie came and went and somehow, I didn't get to see it. Then, when it was released on DVD, I reluctantly bought it, even though most everyone I know who saw it said it was really good. I watched it and was again glad to see that the story was returned to its original integrity. But it had a dual effect on me.

When the movie began to roll its end credits, it had been dedicated to Chris and Dana Reeve. Something about that credit sparked a renewed interest in me to revisit the original.

I went to my local Target and found that the Original Richard Donner film was released as a dual-disc, with an extended, director's cut of the film never before seen. A lot of times, these types of re-releases don't really add a whole lot to the original (exceptions being like the extended versions of the Lord of the Rings films).

As I watched the NEW original film, I was so shocked to discover what had been deleted from the original -- scenes that actually made Superman more -- well -- human!! It almost made me cry to see Superman admitting to his father in the Fortress of Solitude that he was actually enjoying being Superman! And the advise that his father gives him also made the whole secret identity thing about him truly make sense!

And, although it's nothing new, I never realized that this original movie was actually written by Mario Puzo -- the author of "The Godfather," another of my all-time favorite films. What a fun little added prize to my delight!


So my love for Superman has been rekindled. May it never fade again!

Sunday, December 17, 2006

The List

It seems that everyone has a list -- the best this, the worst that, the top 10 of everything, the Time Magazine "Person of the Year" ...

Over the course of the last several days, I've been trying to complile a list of my own and thought I'd share it with you. 2006 was a pretty good year for me and here's hoping that 2007 will continue that good streak:


The List

Best Day of the Year: The day I first stepped on the beach on Hawaii for the very first time. That was in June of this year.

Best Month of the Year: September -- My garden was finally in full bloom, my sweetheart and I celebrated nine years together, and simply relaxed on our vacation -- at home!

Best Movie I saw in 2006: Had to be "Brokeback Mountain" -- when it finally premiered in Utah after all the hoopla about Larry Miller banning it from his theater chain.

Best New Music I bought in 2006: "Around the City" by Eliane Elias.

Best Layover I had in 2006: Again, Honolulu, Hawaii in June.

Best TV show I watched in 2006: "Heroes" on NBC.

Best Restaurant I ate at in 2006: "Cafe Rio" wins by a landslide -- best Mexican food in Utah!

Best thing I did in my garden in 2006: Installed "Cocoa Mulch" in the planting beds -- hmmm the garden smelled like chocolate for weeks and it still looks great, even today!



Best thing that came from my garden in 2006: After months and months of baby-ing it and nuturing it, and after flower after flower bloomed with brown spots or just looked too knarly to keep, my Stirling Silver hybred tea rose finally produced some stunning flowers!




Best concert I attended this year: Utah Symphony performing the works of Maurice Ravel!

Best picture I took of Zach this year:



Best home project I completed this year: Painting the entire kitchen the new colors Cole picked out from Restoration Hardware and installing the new alabaster chandelier over the kitchen table all by myself!

Best layover hotel bed I slept in this year: No doubt about it: The new Hilton Hotels Plush Beds! zzzZZZzzz

Best thing I did on the Internet this year: Joined MySpace, of course!

I know that this little list isn't the greatest, but I hope you noticed that I didn't put together a list of the "Worst" of 2006 -- who cares, really? Besides, there are so many things I am grateful for that it would just ruin the spirit of it all.

My hope is that all of you have a great holiday season and may the new year bring you peace, joy, happiness and prosperity. I will make it my goal to get to know more of you better and to that end, I hope I can one day meet many of you!

Be well and Cheers!

Saturday, December 09, 2006

Judy Shepard: Fighting for Gay Rights

Eight years after losing her son to a hate crime, Matthew Shepard's mother is fighting harder than ever for gay rights.

WEB EXCLUSIVE
By Jessica Bennett
Newsweek
Updated: 6:41 p.m. MT Dec 8, 2006

Dec. 8, 2006 - On Oct. 7, 1998, a young man with dreams of helping others became a symbol of hate and bigotry in America. At 21, Matthew Shepard was lured from a local college bar by two men, taken by car into a remote area of Laramie, Wyo., strung up on a ranch fence, beaten beyond recognition and left to die in subzero temperatures. His attackers, 22-year-old Aaron McKinney and 21-year-old Russell Henderson—later convicted of felony murder and given double life sentences—killed him because he was gay. His bloody body, nearly mistaken for a scarecrow, was not discovered for 18 hours. When the gruesome details of his death hit the headlines, it sparked demonstrations across America and calls for anti-hate-crime legislation.

Shepard would have turned 30 this month, and his mother, Judy, is working hard to keep his memory alive. She has teamed with celebrities, created a foundation in Matthew's name and traveled across the country speaking about tolerance and hate. Her mission is to mobilize communities to demand equality—and prevent others suffering the fate of her son. "Hate is a learned value," says Judy Shepard. "But you can unlearn it too—and that's really what we're trying to communicate to people." Shepard spoke with NEWSWEEK's Jessica Bennett about her son, her foundation and the struggle for gay rights. Excerpts:

NEWSWEEK: What do you think Matthew would be doing if he were still alive?
Judy Shepard: I can only tell you what his dreams were. He wanted to work for the [U.S. State Department's] Foreign Service and go back overseas. He had such a strong sense of equality and fairness ... he saw the disparity between the haves and the have-nots, and he really wanted to change that.

You and your husband founded the Matthew Shepard Foundation in 1998. How has its work evolved since then?
I hadn't been a part of the [gay-rights] movement until Matthew died, so it took some time to figure out where I could play a role and where I could be of the most use. In the beginning, I think it was more about remembering Matt and talking about hate crimes and trying to convince people that yes, there is a difference between a crime and a hate crime. Now it's more about motivating people to do something. We still talk about hate crimes, but now we issue a call to action for people to really do something about it. Just by sheer numbers, the gay community alone, without engaging their straight allies, cannot achieve everything that they deserve, and so we try to encourage them to engage their parents, their colleagues and their co-workers to understand the issues facing the gay community.

How do you think the social climate has changed? Has America become more tolerant of the gay community?
I think a lot of the problems that face the gay community and the lack of equality [derive from] ignorance. I don't think the bulk of the population really understands or is aware of lack of equality for the gay community. [My husband] Dennis and I certainly didn't know that [in some states] you could be fired from your job because you're gay. We thought the Equal Employment Act took care of everybody—it doesn't. So the climate is definitely changing, but we're not there yet.

What has it been like going from regular mom to, in a way, political activist?
Well, it has been a challenge. It's not something I ever endeavored to be. But it's really just about learning and understanding my role.

How does it feel to know Matthew's story has such an impact on people?
Overwhelming. You never really think—though you hope—you're reaching as many people as possible. But it's all those moments that you actually see it happening that it becomes a reality.

You've traveled all around the country speaking to students. What's your message?
It's about hate and respect and equality, and just trying to educate about the gay issues. The core message is just about respecting everybody and that you just are who you are, and there's nothing you can do to change that.

Do you notice differences in attitude among the varying regions you visit?
Oh, sure. The Southeast, what we colloquially refer to as the Bible belt, is a very hard area to get to in the first place, and to get a large audience. The audiences who come are what we call the choir—they're already on board and understand what we're trying to accomplish. But trying to get someone to come who is not aware is very difficult.

What do you consider your most successful endeavor with the foundation?
I think the "Get Out the Vote" campaign, which was very successful. We had a button with Matt's picture on it that said VOTE FOR ME, trying to get people to understand that Matt could no longer vote and that this was an issue that was extremely important to him. Voter apathy among the gay community in particular is just notorious. We thought if we could remind them how important it is to vote using Matt's likeness, perhaps we could get more of them to the polls and to understand that their vote makes a difference. And it was just very far-reaching and very powerful. Whether it got people out to the polls, I just have to imagine that it did.

Do you think we're better off today in terms of preventing hate crimes?
On a level of the everyday person, I'm not sure. I think we've educated, but hate crimes [are] still rampant.

What would it take to really change that?
We need the existing hate-crime law to include sexual orientation. If we can get a federal law passed, not only will it enable communities to prosecute [crimes based on] sexual orientation, but it also shows that the federal government is recognizing and giving respect to the issues of the gay community.

What's the biggest thing you've learned through all of this?
That the good people far outnumber the bad people. Everyone wants to help. It's just allowing them to do it and giving them a way to do it is all that's needed.

Have things in Wyoming changed at all?
I think the people that are accepting now were accepting then, [but] the general consensus here is that all crimes are hate crimes, and that's not true. We have no hate-crime laws in Wyoming—not just for gays and lesbians, but for anyone. [We're] one of only four states left in the union with no hate-crime law.

Is that discouraging, after everything you've gone through?
It is. I'm very discouraged by the lack of action in the state legislature. They had a moment in time to really make a statement about the gay community, and they chose not to. I really think a lot of it has to do [with the fact that] it's a generational issue. When we get younger people running and voting, then this is going to change. But it's been a very slow process in Wyoming.

You created this foundation as a way to replace hate with understanding. How do you go about achieving that?
Just by continuing to speak out and be a presence. Even young people who were not aware at the time of what happened to Matt are learning. Keeping Matt's story out there I think is the best way we can educate. The mail we received after Matthew's death was certainly not only from the gay community, it was from across the board. And we're really just trying to keep this universal message open. This is not about only the gay and lesbian community but about fairness and respect for everyone.

Are you exhausted? How do you keep going?
I am. I just think the message is so important, and I really think that perhaps my time is limited in people remembering. So I just think I have to do as much as I can while people still remember. That's what keeps me going, is Matt's friends and Matt's community and everyone else that's out there that feels the inequality.

Is it difficult each year when his birthday comes around?
It doesn't really get any easier. It gets different, but not easier.

More information on the Matthew Shepard Foundation can be found at
www.matthewshepard.org.

URL:
http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/16116604/site/newsweek/

Monday, December 04, 2006

I Feel the *URGE*

One of the few remaining perks of working for an airline is the ability for some of us to travel to various parts of the country, and sometimes the world, to see and experience things that we would otherwise miss out on. In my years at the airline, I can’t forget my trips to London, England – Heidelberg, Germany – Tokyo, Japan – Sao Paulo, Brazil – even Papeete, Tahiti. I’ve been privileged to have visited them and am, indeed, thankful for these experiences.

Sometimes, however, it is the very simplest of experiences that tend to capture the most fondness, yet they also tend to be over looked – that is, until you have to go without and then you remember how good it really was!

Today, Christmas came early for me! Now, by no means am I comparing this to a trip to Paris or Amsterdam or Sydney. But, in its very simple way (and a whole lot cheaper, I might add!), it brought me great pleasure!

I’m talking about In-N-Out Burger! (“WHAT?!?!” you may be screaming at your computer screen!). Hear me out…

I have been to all 50 states in the U.S.A. and have had my share of hamburgers. I have not discovered any hamburger made commercially today that can top In-N-Out Burger. They are consistently the best tasting sandwich you can buy.

What made it special for me today is that is has been well over a year since I had the opportunity to indulge in one. I know it sounds crazy, but the people who live in California and surrounding areas have the ability to partake at a whim, but those of us who are on the outside looking in can only press our noses up against the glass and salivate. So when the opportunity presents itself, I savor the times when I can enjoy a Double-Double, no onions, those great fries and a thick chocolate ice cream milkshake.


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The next time you are in the west, if you’ve never had the opportunity, give it a shot. You won’t regret it. And although you might have to wait three times longer for your order than you would at a Wendy’s or McDonalds, it will be well worth the wait!

Cheers and good eating!


If Scrooge were Charlie Brown

When Cole and I first moved into our neighborhood, we were the first house built on our street. By the time Christmas arrived that year, there were five homes on our street. That first year was exciting, because nobody knew how to decorate their new home so it was pretty much an experiment in terror!

Last year, the neighborhood being pretty much complete, there was a lot more effort to make things look great. We added new lights to the eaves, decorated the front windows, added lighted wreaths to the garage door and erected an electric tree between our neighbors and us. Other neighbors, in the constant battle and spirit of "One-ups-manship" elaborated on their previous efforts and Christmas in our neighborhood began to evolve.

This year, the battle has truly grown exponentially. One home is starting to look like the Griswold home in "National Lampoon's Christmas Vacation" -- you should be able to see it from orbit in the next few years! We have replaced our "ok" lights from last year to new LED lights and they look great.

In the midst of this whole Christmas decorating jousting match stands one home on the block that just refuses to play by the "rules." It wouldn't be so bad if they were just off to the side, or on the corner. But Nooooo! They have to be right in the middle of the action. If our street had a black eye, this would be it. For the last two years, not one light, not one glint of tinsel, not one hint that anyone even lives there (except that I see their garage door open and shut and cars going in and out -- the other day, the guy who lives there just about ran me off the road just trying to exit our street!).

This guy is the quintessential jock. His whole life revolves around sports of all kinds. Not that that is a bad thing. It's just that his personality hasn't evolved much since high school -- still struts around with that jock saunter, chest puffed out and a slightly disdainful look on his face all the time. His wife seems more an indentured servant than a happy spouse. It's kind of sad to watch this woman interact with the rest of the neighbors, seemingly afraid that she might be being watched and scared to step out of line. But I digress -- back to their house!

So now December 1st rolls around, our street has no need for street lights, and there is enough electricity being burned up to cause the city of Lehi's electric company to post a profit for the entire year! As casual observers enter the court, their cars make the rounds until they near this one home -- the black hole -- and suddenly, you'd think the driver is struggling to maneuver his car away from the almost insurmountable gravitational pull they are feeling as they pass it by. Good thing there isn't any ice on the street or it would be futile!

But something changed yesterday.

I had been working on a few projects in the house that I hadn't realized that it had gotten dark outside. I took a break from my mundane tasks to take a stroll outside and take in the holiday pageantry. I stepped out my front door and LO! and BEHOLD! I saw light emanating from the black hole!

I rubbed my eyes -- "A winter mirage?" I mused. No, but this wasn't any miracle I was viewing either. Deep from within my soul, a huge belly laugh emerged and I had to run back inside to contain myself.

It seems almost that our jock-man has been guilted into making a small effort to helping us all celebrate. But the effort seemed painful and begrudged, at best. Just above the porch of the front door, a single strand of icicle lights were haphazardly strewn up on the rain gutter, looking like they could fall off with the next slight winter breeze. That's it! Nothing else. No decorations in the window, no tree in the front room. It reminded me of Charlie Brown's effort to garnish his little pathetic tree. The real difference being that Charlie wanted it to look great.

Now if only the spirit of our jock's efforts could evolve too!!!